The #1, fundamental, foundational, most pressing human need is Identity. We cannot go without Identity for very many seconds without experiencing harm, sometimes extreme and lasting levels of harm.
What do we mean by Identity? We receive Identity when we get yes answers to questions such as:
Do I exist to you?
Do I matter to you?
Do I have value and significance to you?
Am I good enough for you?
We lose identity if we don’t get yes answers to those questions.